Divorce is a very public situation. You are presenting to the world that you are no longer married, and that will have various implications. Yet, divorce is not something that you have to share. You do not have to present yourself as being an open book. You have rights to privacy, and knowing them is critically important.

Privacy and divorce can be complex. If you are unsure what your legal rights are or where the boundaries exist, reach out to our New Jersey divorce lawyers to discuss your situation in depth. At Jersey Coast Family Law, we are committed to providing our clients with exceptional legal support, no matter the challenges.

Consider your rights in these privacy matters and speak to our legal team for guidance.

Social Media

Social media accounts are private. That is, no one has the right to access your private account. You need to lock down and protect these accounts first and foremost so that no one uses them against you.

  • Change all of your passwords.
    Make sure you log out of all connected devices and ensure there is no sharing of accounts allowed.
  • Don’t post.
    As hard as it is, especially when you need to reach out to people or want to clear the air, simply not posting can protect yourself. That’s because any social media post you create can be used in court in a good or negative way. Attorneys know how to manipulate this information to use it against you.
  • Close shared accounts.
    Any type of shared account should be closed. That includes any Facebook, Instagram, dating sites, Snapchat, Instagram, and any others you have together. Delete them.


You have the right to protect your financial information. Though your disclosures to the court may be necessary and required, your ex does not have the right to access your bank statements or find out what you are doing with your alimony.

For the same reasons, change all of your digital account passwords. If possible, visit your bank in person to make sure that your ex is removed from all of your financial accounts (including as a beneficiary for insurance products or accounts). Ask the financial institution to confirm this to you. Stay logged out of these accounts without saving your password if your ex is in your home.

Check for Spyware

Even if you expect that your spouse would never do such a thing, they could be doing it anyway. Divorce brings out the worst in people. Turn to a third-party service or a professional service where you find yourself and have your computer and all other devices scanned for spyware. Don’t assume the current spyware and virus tools on your computer have not been manipulated. Instead, find a new provider to make sure that data is not compromised.

Nanny Cams

Do you use nanny cameras in your home? If so, remove them and, if you need to, replace them with newly purchased items. Do the same with doorbell cameras and any other security cameras you have around your home. Yes, you want to be safe, but if your ex has an app on the phone for that camera, they could be watching you.

At the same time, you want to make sure you have changed the WiFi password in your home. This means that no one can log into your cameras and watch you from a distance. No one has the right to do that once you remove the tools they had in place.

Litigation: Court Records Are Public

Whenever possible, our team works to encourage families to leave the details out of court documents when applicable. Yet, this is not always possible.

What you need to know is that when you head to court, anything that occurs in a lawsuit or court order is not just between you and the judge. Rather, it is a public record. That means anyone who has any interest in the information can find it – from your neighbor to your mother-in-law. Any time there is any litigation in court, whether it is between you and your spouse or others, it is publicly accessible.

Mediation Can Alleviate This Concern

If you both do not want to have your intimate information shared publicly, you can keep the divorce out of court by using mediation. This service allows people to come to agreements that are understood and legally binding, but it is not as open and documented as litigation is. This is a good way to protect sensitive data or private information.

Update Emergency Contacts

Make sure you have updated all of your emergency contact information to have your spouse removed from it. This includes:

  • Work-related emergency contact information
  • Doctor’s and dentist’s office information
  • Your children’s school contact information should reflect you are divorced or separated and any changes in ICE or authorized pickup or permission information
  • Sports programs and other organizations related to your child or your participation

Also, go through and update beneficiaries on all your estate planning documents. Make sure that this includes your life insurance, will and trusts as well.

Seek Legal Guidance: How a Family Law Attorney Can Help Protect Your Privacy in a New Jersey Divorce

There is absolutely no easy way to separate your life from that of your significant other. Divorce creates a legal barrier and that means that privacy laws can apply. However, it is critical to know that you can and should seek legal help throughout this process. Your family law attorney can help with:

  • Helping you to know what privacy risks are present in your life right now
  • Guide you in taking legal action if your privacy is illegally compromised by anyone
  • Provide you with tools to safeguard personal information

By involving a New Jersey family lawyer, you create a very carefully planned strategy to protect your rights during and after divorce and transform the way you manage your future.

Let Our New Jersey Family Law Attorneys Help Protect You

Contact Jersey Coast Family Law now to discuss the needs you have for privacy and divorce. Our New Jersey divorce lawyers can help you minimize the risks of exposing your private information to anyone who should not have it. Call our New Jersey family lawyers now for help at 732-361-4718.

We have offices in Toms River and Red Bank serving clients throughout New Jersey.

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